Maybe I am a little burned out having the same things happen over and over so I figured I would just post this question and give my 2 cents on the subject.
When I was younger I almost got married twice, I was in the military so of course Murphy’s law dictated that when things got serious I had to move or get sent somewhere. An example of this is I was stationed at Ft. Eustis and was dating Michelle, a smart successful, and of course beautiful black woman, (the only one I have ever had the pleasure of dating), who I met at a Trax music store. We dated then I got sent to Korea, end of story.
And it seems that for some odd reason that it is more acceptable to be divorced and my age than to just single and waiting. This astounds me to no end. Not that divorce always equals failure but in some ways it does. I would rather wait and find if not true love but at least great match than settle and end up divorced. Maybe this is due to the fact that mine was a broken home, divorce rates, or just the fact that I have friends that are split and the kids end up suffering. I noticed this attitude recently when I joined a certain military organization and the expressed almost shock at the fact that I had never been married. I know that it is unrealistic to expect people not to make certain judgments but one can hope that not all single men are automatically assumed to be weird or evil. Maybe it would help if I pointed out what I am looking for and then I think it will be made clear why I have ended up with some of these reactions. I want someone younger for several reasons: I am set in my ways enough probably for two (though some things I could change), I do not want an instant family so not really looking for someone with kids of there own, and I would actually like to um be with the person a while before having kids, (like travel and just enjoy each others company -be married a few years) that way maybe if you are going to get divorced you don't have to drag some kids through it. This means I am probably if I had do set a age group 23-27 or so. This is not a rule, but merely a starting point. I also like people who have opinions and can express a view so I figured while I am in college where better to look. It seemed a great idea to me, but I am finding allot of people who make assumptions like if he is older and interested in me he must be a pervert, or he cant be serious, or he is afraid of commitment. When did our society shift to where first impressions and judgment totally override all curiosity and logic? Bah... well back to studying I avoided my biology long enough
If you have a brain, are not afraid of older men, nerds, or commitment. If you understand that eccentric is not a bad word and you want someone who understands honesty, integrity, and fidelity and expects the same then drop me a line I am interested in seeing just how many read this and still actually want to converse afterwards.